A GUIDE FOR SOON-TO-BE OR NEW DADS ON FATHER’S DAY - Borrowing From Unofficial Parenting Playbooks

A GUIDE FOR SOON-TO-BE OR NEW DADS ON FATHER’S DAY - Borrowing From Unofficial Parenting Playbooks

If you were to steal a few tactics from your father’s parenting playbook (or your brother’s, uncle’s or grandfather’s), the ones most worthy of passing on to the next generation of dads, which would you choose? Inspired by the soon-to-be dads in my family, my Father’s Day post highlights 16 suggestions, relevant to the real demands of fatherhood, taken directly from the dads in my life. The suggestions encompass fathering through play and through loss, parenting learning differences, giftedness, or life threatening food allergies, partnering during the journey, prioritizing family, and being present through pain, elation and everything in between. Click through to read more!

Photo Credit: Photo by Liane Metzler

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The Unbearable Weight of Grief

The Unbearable Weight of Grief

When tragedy struck my family, I felt a disorienting and unendurable grief. Friends and loved ones offered expressions meant to support me, but instead, they often made me want want to scream! I heard well meaning friends and family say, “Time heals all wounds,” “You need to find closure”, or the most disappointing, “Let’s visit when you are feeling better.” Even though their efforts missed the target, deep down I knew they were well intended. Other expressions and actions were spot on. They lifted my heart, just enough to let me know that I was cared for, understood and loved. In this writing, I share experiences and insights from my mourning process, highlighting the more common dynamics and challenges, and sharing those strategies that helped me cope with the unbearable weight of my grief and eventually, laugh and dance with it.

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Turn your “To-Do List” into a “Done List”!

Turn your “To-Do List” into a “Done List”!

I used to gauge my sense of efficacy and accomplishment on the number of cross offs on my to-do lists.  Because I focused on the items remaining instead of the tasks I had accomplished, my lists often brought about disappointment and defeatism. Now I have a few tricks up my sleeve to improve my productivity, acknowledge my enterprise, and persevere.  Read on to learn more about them!

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Ever Changing Valentine’s Day Rituals

Ever Changing Valentine’s Day Rituals

Valentine’s Day has changed significantly since its origins in early ancient Roman fertility rituals. Here’s a look at the transition to its modern day celebration, how it grows to reflect our ever changing culture, and a thought or two on directions for its future.

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Four Inspirations to Stay Centered During the College Application Process

Four Inspirations to Stay Centered During the College Application Process

Stress, looming deadlines, outrageous workload, complaints of unfairness, self doubt and loss of perspective plague the college application process - for kids and their parents alike! Here are four inspirations to help you and your high schooler stay centered, and nurture self esteem and integrity during the college application process.  Read on to see how even this turbulent time in your family’s life can seed growth and resilience.

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New Year's Resolutions... How to Keep Them!

New Year's Resolutions... How to Keep Them!

The New Year inspires beginnings and resolutions. I love the energy and motivation that come with moving towards growth, health and wisdom. Research shows that you are 10 times more likely to achieve your goals if you are explicit in setting resolutions, but also warns that most resolutions don’t lead to desired outcomes. It seems that only 8 to 20 percent of those who set resolutions achieve them. How can you then beat those daunting statistics and be the one who attains your goals?

Set realistic and practical goals and operationalize them- be specific in the behavior that makes them happen! Know and remind yourself frequently why your resolution is important to you. Most importantly get organized, be accountable and find inspiration! To stay organized and on task, use apps, daytimers, project planners or other organizational tools to help you step by step plan for your goals. Consider hiring a coach (me!), join a support group, or buddy up with friends to both lift each other up and or to hold each other accountable. Lastly, heed Voltaire’s famous quote, “Le mieux est l’ennemi du bien,” which roughly tells us to not let perfection stand in the way of good.  

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Her Quivering Lips...

Her Quivering Lips...

I don’t wish a food allergy on anyone! But since my baby girl is stuck with multiple food allergies, I find it helpful to recognize how her challenging journey has also contributed in some way to her beautiful and strong character - her resilience, her perspective, her ability to walk her own walk despite what the crowd is doing , her compassion for others, and most pragmatically, her resultant vigilance about what she eats. "Her Quivering Lips" describes how even her experiences of exclusion and anxiety - the kind known to allergy sufferers everywhere - have also seeded growth, resilience, kindness, compassion and vigilance.

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Welcome to my blog!

Welcome to my blog!

I believe in the power of support, education, inspiration and empowerment to help us push through life's challenges! I have dedicated my professional life to empowering people in personal and professional endeavors to navigate the hard stuff. Here you will find stories to remind you that you are not alone and to inspire you to live, work, love and play passionately and empowered despite life’s challenges.

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